Every year, schools all over first world countries cause pain, angst and heartache. Materialistic, superficial and enforcing of all the negative factors of society, “Prom” is often strongly promoted by the schooling system. After years of half-taught but well intended lessons on self confidence and the importance of individuality within the modern day world, it’s somewhat of a mixed message.
Whilst I enjoy dressing up for special occasions, messing around with new makeup and painting my nails, as a 21st century woman, that is not the be-all and end-all of my interests. Far from it. In my spare time, alongside blogging and revising, I love nothing more than to curl up with Wonders of the Solar System by Brian Cox or The Origin of the Species by Charles Darwin.
I find prom personally insulting.
Revolving around the concept that looks are one’s main and only asset as a young woman, the fact that the education system actively encourage and endorse something as shallow and narcissistic as it proves to be never fails to astounds me.
As I’ve mentioned in my last blog post Should Single-Sex Schools be Banned?,Β there are no boys attending the event at my school-which doesn’t give me much of an insight into the unique pressures placed on the male of the species. But of course, it doesn’t take a great amount of emotional intelligence to gather that the occasion must place a huge strain on them too: the stress of asking a partner, the angst of the outcasts struggling to find a date.
I have no objection towards the concept of celebrating the end of high school-but must it be so extravagant? So looks-orientated? So earth-shatteringly vapid?
This morning in class, all I could hear from every direction were the fragments of manic chatter over deciding how much to spend on a limousine; shortly followed by large amounts of competitive bitching.
“I bet Megan will look fucking ugly. Can you believe that red dress she’s wearing? Is she trying to be a cheap whore?”
“Ella won’t find a dress to fit into. Fat fucking pig.”
“I bet you Dani won’t get laid until she’s, like, 25. Would anyone really want to fuck someone like her? She should really hold out for a blind alcoholic, because that’s the best fucking change she has.”
And then there are the young people like myself, not born into particularly affluent families-tested by society to prove that we are worthy of social affection.
But for what purpose?
The education system should be just that-saved for intellectualism and the challenging of conventional norms.
The last thing it should be is a fashion parade.
Outstanding post for such a young writer. I loved how you write. I loved your perspective, and I agree with you! Nothing like quoting Pink Floyd either! Well done
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Thank you so much! Yes, Pink Floyd were certainly one of a kind. There’ll never be anything else that matches it, let alone exceeds it! π
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You speak the truth
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Hmm… I don’t know what to say, but I know you wrote really well… Wish you good luck with the end of your high school experience too.
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Interesting perspective. I can understand that, but in a way it’s also about feeling special for a night. Which also isn’t that great because we should feel awesome everyday. The thing is it’s a night to just wild out and get dressed up and feel gorgeous. It’s stressful and stuff, but when you’re there dancing having a good time it’s hardly about what you’re wearing or who your date is, in fact it’s just nice to get dressed up, do your hair, and hit up your group of friends. I went to prom last year with my senior date and it was pretty bomb. I mean there was food hello xD and everyone looked so amazing. Of course going to prom isn’t exactly necessary to do that xD but just my take on it I guess. There will always be shallow people there’s really no getting around that, but I think it’s really what you make of it. It’s your night! π
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Interesting perspective as always, Bea! I’ve attended my high school prom although my personal reasons were the food and a fun time to hang out with my friends π I think it’s a great excuse for many to dress up, especially when it’s very seldom we get to wear a gown. But I get that many think of it as a fashion parade. I’ve also seen people spending unbelievably too much on prom, although not as far as renting a limo, mygosh.
But can you believe that our college department will be holding a prom for us third year COLLEGE students? That’s when I was like, uh no thanks. Been there done that.
Anyway, I hope you’ll find your own way of celebrating the end of your high school lifeπ
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Thank you Kate! I agree that it can be really good fun, I just think that we’re going about it in totally the wrong way. Oh really? You’d have thought they’d know it’s getting a bit repetitive now haha-are you going? Thank you! π x
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Most definitely not. I feel like two proms in high school is and will be enough to last me a lifetime. Besides, college prom with people who are practically strangers? I’ll pass πΈ
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That’s understandable-it doesn’t sound like much fun at all. You should throw your own anti-prom party π
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Funnily enough, me and a friend will π and we’ll be attending an anime and comic convention the next day ππ
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Nice! See, every cloud has a silver lining! Haha π
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Amen to that π
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Education should be about free thinking and individual perspectives, more often than not it’s about conformity π― I love your posts and hope you’re able to celebrate the end of your study in a way that feels good to you. Great post!
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Thank you so much! You’re so right. And conformity isn’t always healthy. The edication aystem needs tweaking in so many ways.
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