First and foremost, although I have put a great deal of effort into not passing judgement on anybody and have tried to be as sensitive as I can about an often highly emotive topic, you may not want to read this post if it’s a difficult subject for you-my aims is never to upset, but to inform. Having said that, however, the aim of this article is to reassure and offer support to as many women as possible! 🙂
If I were to say the word ‘abortion’, what would first spring to mind? Murder? Desperation? Post Traumatic Stress Disorder? Many flinch at the mention of the topic, intrigued children are told their queries are ‘inappropriate’ and somewhat ‘dirty’. It is these reactions, and this inability to discuss social issues that evoke taboo, fuelled primarily by fear.
I, a sixteen year old girl, am attempting to break the silence.
When I hear the phrase, I try to envision it for what it is, broken down into its simplest form: without the glorification, or, on the contrary, disapproval, that are advertised by popular opinion. I try to appreciate that it is the removal of the unborn fetus from the womb via medical assistance.
Whilst not ‘ideal’, abortion is sometimes necessary.
As an example, in the instance of rape. Given the dire circumstances, it is evil to expect, through rose-tinted glasses, a woman to give birth to her rapist’s child. Not only will she inevitably be attempting to come to terms with the event that will have changed her perception of the world around her, but she may proceed to have issues with her mental health. It is heartless and cold to pressure her into what she may feel to be a “prison” of a pregnancy, with devastating consequences all around.
I once had a teacher in primary school-he was called Mr Stephenson, and he was a devout Christian who believed that “even if a nine year old was raped, she should still continue the pregnancy”.
As to echo the words of Shakespeare, he was proof of one thing:
“Hell is empty, and all the devils are here”.
“Hell is empty, and all the devils are here”.
I can think of few opinions more inhumane than one that insists a sexually abused child must give birth to another child.
Of course, there may be some who use this opportunity of new life to gain a sense of closure, or because they feel that an abortion wouldn’t benefit them-and that’s incredibly admirable. But that does not mean to suggest that this is the right “prescribed” route for every woman in a similar situation. Although alike, we are all uniquely dissimilar.
And then, obviously, there are other circumstances which may require a termination of pregnancy. Being too young (there are girls in my year who are about to give birth), being unable to look after the child-either because of financial, physical or emotional instability- and the detection of a profound and life-impairing disability.
We must also take into account the issue of so called “backstreet abortions”. Before 1967, when legalisation was first passed, thousands of women died from having the procedure carried out by an unprofessional individual with little-or more often, no-medical experience. It is often thought that reversing the Act would not, in fact, stop abortion at all: but would actually increase the number if annual deaths. This case is strongly pushed by numerous human rights activists.
I’m not suggesting that we should be using abortion as an alternate form of birth control: that would be absurd. But, if contraception fails or the pregnancy was the result of an assault, it is important to acknowledge it as a way out of insurmountable mental strain. A common misconception is that women and their male partners are too “lazy” to take sufficient precautions; but believe me, it is far less hassle to wear a condom or take the pill than it is to go through the process of arranging a series of doctor’s appointments.
Is it for the best that a child is brought into a world where its carers are unable to offer it a substantial amount of love and support, anyway? There are hundreds of thousands of children in the UK who cannot find basic foster care-let alone a kind, loving family.
You think about that.
Ultimately, this is my plea: don’t give these women a rough time-it was already most likely one of the hardest things they’ll ever have to do.
Being Pro-Choice, is, in fact, being Pro-Life-but rather, being judged on quality, as opposed to quantity.
Disagree? In complete agreement? As always, I want to hear from you and discuss your opinions! Every viewpoint is welcome, so long as it isn’t argued in a way that intends ro intimidate or purposefully upset others 🙂
Stay safe! x