You hear it all the time-sometimes used in context, but most often not.
I’m in my final year at a state-run high school for girls. As you can imagine, the bitching is extreme, constant and undeserved: it is like the St Trinian’s of the day modern world; only perhaps more pretentious and in denial of the epidemic nastiness of the youngsters under its care.
The most frequently used insult is something of sexual shame to women everywhere-“she’s such a slut”, or “she’s such a whore” upon hearing of any kind of sexual activity by another girl-whether she be in our class, or on TV, that word echos relentlessly down the corridors.
Slut
Slut
Slut
It’s unhealthy to condemn women-and only women-for their private lives, regardless of how sexually active they are.
You must ask yourself, honestly, if you are part of the issue. And it’s okay if you are: it happens to the very best of us. We all get drawn into the magnetism of mainstream thinking from time to time. But, as human beings, the only lifeform capable of true intellectualism, we must stretch ourselves to challenge the expectations of wider society.
There is no harm in going through a promiscuous phase every once in a while. So long as both parties are above the legal age and the sex is consensual, it can be empowering. It is not just a sign of low self esteem and self harm-but, if done at a time in your life that suits you, can be quite the opposite.
So why is it only women that are shamed for exercising their rights as sexual beings? Firstly-and perhaps most obviously-religion. In the Bible, it was Eve that tempted Adam. In the Quran, women are told not to “show their charms” so as not to lead men astray. This concept, if closely analysed, is equally insulting to the male of the species-the vast majority of whom would be able to refrain from commiting a sexual offence if they found themselves madly attracted to someone of the opposite sex. They’d be disgusted by the notion.
All we have done is place ourselves into incredibly narrow boxes and gender stereotypes. Can either sex really be happy with their presentation by the media?
It is the complex set of beliefs belonging to fundamentalists that have been entwined into our everyday lives.
So, back to the initial point: there is nothing wrong with being a “slut”. But the word in itself is degrading, and it’s about time we wrote it off as a phrase of the past.
Wonderful post dear ππ So true x x
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Thank you lovely! βΊ x x
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Your welcome dear ππ x x
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AMEN SISTER!!
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So true
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it’s really only applicable to men to begin with. I have a list of words I refuse to use which includes: slut, bitch, whore, cu**, fat, ugly, stupid, loser, nag, mother f*****, and pretty much anything that is inevitably going to cause someone pain, shame, sorrow, embarrassment, insecurity, and so on. though i’m tempted to use all of them against degenerate men. the multitude of degrees of ludicrous irony that exist within the concept of a man ever daring to call a woman “slut” is far too profane to even ponder for more than 5 seconds at a time. yes, i’m irate. these topics make my blood boil. thank you for your part in this fight
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and thank you for reading! π I’m glad to find someone who shares my enthusiasm π It’s interesting you say that-in my experience, women have been just as bad-if not worse-than men at slutshaming. I think that’s mainly to do with the fact that women like to compete with each other-and anything that drags someone else down boosts their confidence. Which is sad really! π¦
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Brilliantly written, especially at your age! My goodness. Do you have aspirations to be a writer? You are well on your way!
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I just came across your blog and I read through some posts and my god – they are so amazing and impowering I don’t know where to begin!! I am happy how you talk about subjects like these because more often then not these subjects are like the elephant in the room.
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Thank you so much Evie! That’s made my day :). Honestly, thank you so much for reading. I hope you’re okay?x
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Aww you’re welcome β€οΈ Yes, I am okay! Thanks for asking though xx
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That’s good! π Definitely stay in touch π xx
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I totally agree! This is so true..
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Thank you! π We need to stop shaming women.
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Yes we do! I believe it starts with us!
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Bravo!! It’s crazy that a women can be judged simply based on the clothing that adorns her body! Great post, great blog!
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Thank you! I have a feeling we share a lot in common! π That goes for you as well π
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I couldnβt agree more! And also, people use these derogatory, degrading terms when they arenβt even remotely applicable to the situation
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I know! A woman can be wearing a skirt, and all of a sudden she’s a slut. It’s a mad world π
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It really is a mad world!
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